Being the Third-Party

I was reading one of the Blogs I frequent juz now and empathised how the gal felt when she discovered only yesterday that her boyfren of 2 months two-timed her. She was at the state of uber happiness when they were dating and she raved about how she felt so blissed and sweet after meeting this arsehole. Now, it's shattered dreams for her, and she's crying buckets now cos' she has never thought that she be involved in such shit with the guy she adored all these while.

I know how it was like to be two-timed. And just like her, I chose to lift my head high and told the jerk that I want out and gave my blessings to him and his gf. It was a rational decision but painful. As usual, he picked me up from my office and we headed for dinner, then he suggested going for a walk, around Labrador Park if I can recall, which was unusual. We walked around aimlessly and I was getting a little impatient, cos' my sixth sense was telling me that he has something to tell me that day. So we went back to the car and he started to mutter that his gf wants a patch up, she's threatening suicide and other scary stunts, he felt sorry for her, blah blah..she wants to move in with him..and those crap. I was keeping my cool all the while, there was no wailing nor hatred, I juz blamed myself for falling for him so deep within 2 months. He was the suave guy I always wanted, he has his own advertising company, successful and smart, and most importantly, he pampers me like his lill princess like nobody did. Everything seems juz so right at that point of time.

But..but reality hits hard, and I have to let go...

I wet my pillow every night, went drinking with friends to numb my emo, did everything I could to forget about him. Even when he attempted to look me up in the office, I avoided him. I refused to take his calls or reply his smses, I have totally sought to cut off all contacts with him simply becos' I didn't want to be a third party. That way, I can only ensure myself that I won't fall back to him if he comes crumbling to my world again. I guess I wanted someone who has a clear mind on what and who he wants in his life, and not a confused guy who is ensure of the path he wants to choose.

Whatever it is, am glad that I made that right decision, and that I'm happily married to a man of my dreams. Though he doesn't have a business for me to be called tow-kay-neo or tai tai, he's also quite a successful engineer to date. What I love about him is his mild temper and sense of humour. He doesn't make me cry but makes a point to make me happy and laugh everyday. I is so glad to have met him...*j-smile*

And for that blogger gal with a broken heart now, dun be sad for too long...life's gotta go on..give other men a chance? I'm sure a gal like you deserves better than being a third party in the dark!

Cheers!